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Time flies
Our baby is a year old. We didn't have a party - just a quiet family get together. As a friend rightly pointed out, this landmark is special for the parents - the baby just needs to stay comfortable and not be taxed by wavering attention from his parents and a ton of guests leaving him bewildered.
I remember most of the events of a year ago like it happened yesterday. The difficult bits are already fading and are taking on the golden glow of fond memories. Though the year has passed rather quickly, it has stayed long in terms of memories. As I was reliving those days, I realized that one of the strongest feelings I had was one of apprehension - that we would not be able to care for S adequately. While in the hospital, the doctors and nurses were there to help. Not only that, his weight and temperature etc. were monitored regularly and I felt like we had those metrics to tell us we were doing ok and he was doing ok. I was apprehensive leaving the hospital - here is a tiny baby who is completely dependent on us and we (the clueless) were going to have to take care of him without a doctor's supervision?! And .. there's no manual? :) Of course my parents were there to help with his care and when I went overboard with worry, my Mom would knock sense into me, but while one can argue with one's Mom, one tends to keep quiet when a doctor tells one the same thing.
When his doctor's office gave us their regular check up schedule, I remember feeling appalled. After the first visit (on the 8th day), the next few were at 2 weeks, 4 weeks, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months, 9 months and 12 months. I thought to myself "You've got to be kidding me. What if I do something wrong and I don't find out because there was no constant monitoring?". That is what comes from being new at the job, I guess. How could I just 'wing it' with this tiny little person?
Over the months as I learned about him and myself too, it has become easier. Of course he will always keep us guessing and constantly amazed but I don't feel like I have to be tested and evaluated for my ability to take care of him. Of course there is the question of how our rearing will direct his growth as a person - but for that I am placing my faith in God and my elders to direct me to do what is best for him and us.
As V first said at S's birth, becoming parents is a very humbling event. Such is the magnitude of the blessing that made it happen and the responsibility and reward it brings.
- M.
Okra again
Here's the first second batch we picked from our vegetable garden (and a nicer picture).

As I noted earlier, some of the okra is a little suspicious.
Okra again
Talk about the weather
After roasting for a week or so in the 100 give-or-take-a-few degree (that's around 40 celsius for the metric minded) heat the last week, last night's cool down was nothing if not delicious. After dinner we spent a while basking in the cold - yes, cold - breeze that by morning had cooled the house enough for us to want to draw blankets closer and not get out of bed. So, when I found myself nodding in understanding to Frances Mayes description of a winter she spent in Tuscany, you will understand that it was with some new found appreciation for the lower temperature.
What A chooses to put on her Netflix queue is a constant source of gentle ribbing aimed at her. Then Under the Tuscan Sun arrived in the mail, the day after the local TV station had shown it as their Sunday movie. I went along for glimpses of Tuscany; then I played it again for the story. And then I borrowed the audio book - read by the author herself - from the library to enliven my commute.
I like the book more, but the movie isn't bad; just very different. It's a nicely done adaptation taking the essence from the book but being very creative with it. Both are highly recommended, in either order.
This week promises to be cool. I remember being apprehensive about the cold as my first winter outside India approached, not many years ago. I am looking forward to winter this year; we might be friends yet.
V.
Okra in disguise
Late one Saturday morning V and I began digging up two of the four plant beds in our garden. S had been cleaned up and fed and was going to fall asleep in his playpen; which is the primary reason for the delay getting started. (We love blaming everything on S!)
With the Sun now hot above our heads we began turning the stubborn soil. We dug it up as best as we could - V did most of the heavy digging with me helping with suggestions and getting in his way as much as possible. I was actually trying to isolate and get rid of the bounty left around by the neighbour's cat and also water the soil as it was being turned. Then it was time to mix in the store bought compost. Part of the bed was marked off as the nursery and we planted a packet of okra seeds (of course we didn't plant the packet directly!) We checked the watering situation a few times and then let nature and the sprinkler system take care of everything.
A few weeks later (I think it was 3), we had lots of lovely seedlings. Another hot Saturday morning we completed work on the rest of the bed, did more compost mixing and then thinned out the nursery and spread out the seedlings. Some more watering fixes later we were done. That weekend was extremely hot and we lost a few of the transplants but I was surprised by how many actually survived. I think we lost 3 or 4 in about 12-15. We'd left the really robust seedlings growing in the nursery - they were too well established to be transplanted.
A few more weeks later we noticed flowers - big yellow ones. I have not seen an okra plant before, so I didn't think much of it. Last weekend we stepped out to see flowers and fruits - but the fruits look like baby squashes! All the plants have similar looking leaves - do we have a wholesale mutiny? We have yet to find out. Ants and aphids have made an appearance though. I really wonder how organic farming deals with these. I can't stand the sight of them on fresh leaves and buds. V helped wash most of them down, but I am pretty sure some plants are gone. Ugh!
So, do we have any okra at all? We have no idea, but watch this space. V says that after all the hard work, he doesn't care what fruit/vegetable it is, he is going to eat it anyway! :)
- M.
Need to Slow down
how do we slow down, a very difficult change.
I want to open the forum and invite comments on how to slow down and enjoy the small small things in life from nature, our life, our surrounding, our joys and our sorrows


